David Palaia

Palaia Professional Counseling PC
58 Vine Street Suite 206
Mountain Brook, Alabama 35213
(205) 802-1855

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So why work on your anger anyway? Most people generally come to treatment for anger due to some type of negative consequence (arrest, fight, etc) happening in their life, and at least some have insight about how their anger influenced these events. Others, however, do not understand the connection between their anger and the immediate consequences at all, so it is not surprising that many do not even consider some of the long term consequences associated with the anger. Just like with drugs and alcohol, anger can provide a means of immediate gratification of needs but may cause unforeseen problems in the long run. For example, if a child is misbehaving, a parent may become physically or verbally aggressive with a child which may remedy the errant behavior. However, the long term payoff may be that the child will then come to fear the presence of the adult. Once the child becomes an adult he or she may be less, or possibly not at all, interested in having a relationship with the caregiver. Another aspect of anger that poses a long term consequence is the repeated and intense activation of the stress response in the body, a.k.a.“the fight or flight response.” The down side to continual activation of the stress response can include frequent illness due to compromising the immune system. Also numerous physical ailments have been associated with this increased action of this response including gastrointestinal problems and high blood pressure. Try thinking about and appreciating some of these consequences the next time you recognize anger coming up, and see if you can use this to pull back. If not, at the very least, it is good food for thought.

In wellness - David

“You must do that which is difficult.” – Eleanor Roosevelt